According to Kim Scott a former Apple and Google executive and author of the awesome book Radical Candor “The most important things you can do if you have a bad boss, is to remember that this person is a human being.”
You know how it is when you have a crappy boss you secretly walk around thinking you’re going to break the bitch down and make them suffer, but it never happens.
Usually what happens is that you hold all your feelings, thoughts and ideas inside until you’re ready to blow up like a volcano just to wind up being more frustrated and hate coming to work.
Kim Scott, who has been a CEO Coach to people like Ryan Smith (Qualtrics), Drew Houston (Dropbox), and Kevin Gibbon (Shyp) says to start by soliciting feedback from your boss to try to understand their perspective on how things are going.
You do that by:
- Looking for things that you both like
- Stop talking badly about them
- Focus on the good stuff
If you just do those 3 things, eventually you will create a safe space to ask your boss if it’s okay to give them some critical feedback.
What if your boss says no?
Polish your resume and find another boss.
If your boss says yes, you’re on your way to fixing the relationship.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Domenic Certa is the co-author of the soon to be #1 bestselling book, Manager Hacker and the founder of the Self-Achievement System, one of the internet’s best DIY personal and professional development systems, serving people across the globe. His book is currently being translated into 6 languages and will soon be available in more than 150 countries.
Domenic has managed hundreds of people and helped gross millions in revenue for clients like Apple, General Motors, AT&T, Vodafone Wireless, BMW, Heineken and HSBC Bank over the past 15 years. As a senior facilitator for the ISA Experience, Domenic has coached thousands of people in their personal and professional growth.